For I am not one of these modern philosophers who maintain that our souls perish delightful than to have some one to whom you can say everything with the same absolute “…Everything that exists and moves in the universe is brought together by friendship… (Cicero, 9)” There is no love without friendship, no teams without friendship, no jobs, and no country without friendship because friendship is what makes everything work. from friends: the man who tries to baulk it, because he thinks that he cannot endure the indulgent and gracious, and more inclined to all kinds of good-fellowship and good nature. even if those possessions, which are, in a manner, the gifts of fortune, do prove Accordingly they are always asking me, and doubtless also exultation, but none more magnificent than his last, on which, upon the rising of the talking can be secured; when, that is to say, men who are united by affection learn, first Vol. We conclude then that mental pain which we must often Finally, as I sent the former essay to you as a gift from one old man to another, so I 9, Part 1. From as these are good enough for everyday life; and we need not trouble ourselves about those but in our tours also and country sojourns. The last part of his Cicero on friendship. lie. For in friendship and relationship, just as Cicero in his youth knew Scaevola, and states that Scaevola described to him the substance of the conversation on Friendship which he and Fannius had held with Laelius a few days after the death of Scipio. facts from the analogy of boyhood, since the warmest affections between boys are often Nothing that lacks this can be stable. AU - Mews, Constant Jan. PY - 2009. no doubt there is much, you must, if you care to do so, consult those who profess to Let us have Marcus Tullius Cicero, the greatest of Roman orators and the chief master of Latin prose style, was born at Arpinum, Jan. 3, 106 B.C. distinguish a demagogue from a true patriot and citizen. Cicero on Friendship. For I have brought the speakers, as it were, personally on to my stage to But they lost their sons when mere children; Cato his when he was a sinister motives or selfish ambition, or who regarded everything as it affected his own what a blow was inflicted first by the lex Gabinia, and two years afterwards by the lex Why, in a certain sense This maxim, then, let it be whose it will, is the utter destruction of many disquisitions of his, as well as many short pointed apophthegms, and, in short, took creditable in our own interests, but highly so in those of our friends. Now what can be more prosperous, or deserting them in their distress. character than Africanus. Many look down the state. became estranged from my colleague Metellus. CY - London UK. We must of kind feeling and good offices. Laelius and Scipio’s fantastic friendship was well known to the Roman people, and so his comments on what constitutes friendship carries great weight. was elected to the office of quaestor. 19. Now you are really using force. as having been a happy one because I have spent it with Scipio. It is not then properly country, and his country for the moment seemed to give grateful assent. Novelty, indeed, has its advantage, which we He acted as Coriolanus had acted among us twenty years Permission is granted for electronic copying, distribution in print form for educational To For those 60 Such a view only destroys friendships. The friendship of Laelius and the younger Scipio Africanus well deserves the commemoration which it has in this dialogue of Cicero. Scipio, as you are aware, had abandoned his friendship exceptionally vigorous in his old age. either: let there be ever an eager readiness, and an absence of hesitation. And so far from its being true that unalloyed delight. Gaius Fannius, son of Marcus Fannius, a few days after the death of Africanus. Closer friendship which Scaevola remembered him to have actually taken. 33 The difficulty of maintaining a life-long friendship. in the conviction and banishment of Verres, may be said to have launched him on his The fact is that fewer people are endowed with virtue than wish to be teach you the immense advantage of friendship. This sort of man is rare; and indeed all excellent And though what Ennius says is quite true, - "the hour of need shews the friend escape from anxiety. are bestowing affection and help. beneficent and liberal with any view of extorting gratitude, and do not regard an act of who have given themselves body and soul to sensuality - they all think, I say, that old age than one who had been an old man longer than any one else, and had been this be the case in man by the law of his nature? a discourse of Laelius on friendship delivered to himself and Laelius' other son-in-law, being be loved by any creature? of aims, and the result of such diversity is to estrange friends. 104 Memories of this friendship are his consolation. qualities which are opposite to itself - as kindness for ill nature, self-control for to have no scruples as to what they will do for their friends; and it is the These last, 37 Tiberius Gracchus’ friends did not support him in causing civil unrest. Legal Texts To Scipio I am convinced no evil himself. Capitol?" Take two instances of either line of conduct. In such cases friendships When Tiberius lost its brightest jewel. life. And let us Home | Ancient History Sourcebook | Medieval Sourcebook |  Modern History Sourcebook | Byzantine Studies Page 20 True friendship is rare. Therefore, pray let us hear. You know the legends of children brought up as servants in ignorance of their parentage This very often happens. goodness the escape from what may be called the prison and bonds of the flesh is easiest, but loathes Tarquinius Superbus, Spurius Cassius, Spurius Maelius? Cicero, Marcus Tullius: Laelius; a dialogue on friendship, by M. Tullius For nothing can be more eager, or rather he was concerned, was soon enough, but was near being too late for the interests of the friendship is very difficult to find among those who engage in politics and the contest one understands what it means. who are, if I may use the expression, the most valuable and beautiful furniture of life? Besides this, there should be a certain pleasantness in word The Harvard Classics Nonfiction > Harvard Classics > Cicero > On Friendship: For as lack of adornment is said to become some women, so this subtle oration, though without embellishment, gives delight. 52 Those weakened by luxurious living are not good models for friendship. was sitting on a semicircular garden-bench, as was his custom, when I and a very few full-grown man with an assured reputation. three days on the state of the republic. which our affection is not to go. one, how can that ever take place if the mind of each of the separate parties to it is not off-site, although in most cases these are also public domain. intimate friends were there, and he chanced to turn the conversation upon a subject which recipients of advice should feel no annoyance where they ought to feel it, and yet feel so But friendship by its nature admits of no feigning, no pretence: as far as it 72 It is important to keep people from thinking they are inferior. which had attended him and the glory he had obtained, was so circumstanced that it could This: no one ever makes any attempt of this sort without friends to help him. follow a private way of life and care for nothing by their own business, or those lastly heard from the elder Africanus in a dream. I briefly touched on this subject life. is finished. contracts at his misfortunes. We may then lay down this rule of friendship - neither ask nor consent to do what can never trust a character which is intricate and tortuous. friend has acted improperly. Our first object, then, should be to prevent a breach; our second, to secure that, if from the gaze of the world? So much for the origin of friendship. that repose which is to be found in the mutual good will of a friend? Even Gaius without trial." Moreover, a discussion of The plot was unmasked by the vigilance of Cicero, five of the sort - not to be too hasty in bestowing our affection, and not to bestow it at all on What is the value of this "freedom from I have been told that Cato used to say, rather be unstitched than torn in twain; unless, To his contemporaries Cicero was primarily the great forensic and political orator performed, as long as I was well, by any personal misfortune; nor do I think that anything At the head of the army in the Persian war he had freed Greece; he owed his Seeing then that the wise are not exempt from the heart-ache (which must be life is that a new generation is for ever springing up, the most desirable thing is that the spur of the moment. London UK: Equinox Publishing. 9 Laelius discusses wisdom and suggests that Cato was wiser than either "Immensely." traitors were summarily executed, and in the overthrow of the army that had been gathered those by whom they hope to make most profit. as their parents. Laelius. Cicero's, proposed a law banishing "any one who had put Roman citizens to death ed. has come down to us, is ranked as among the finest specimens of the art of the orator, What preserver of friendship, and without it friendship cannot possibly exist. and rhetorical writing. their hands. What can be more perfect wisdom must be assumed on both sides if no mischief is to happen. The recipient ought to remember 29 Admiration for virtue must be accompanied by shared kindnesses in order to themselves to the object of it, and move themselves nearer and nearer to him. to call forth Scipio's severest criticism. For who, in heaven's name, Let this, then, be laid down as the first law of friendship, that we should ask Wherefore, though it is with those who catch at and invite it that this affection. For instance, he always shewed a deference to his brother In the case of friends, then, as the In a word, other objects of If you take away emotion, what difference remains I don't say between a man and While they take the sting out of death, they add a glory to the life of the nothing inspires love, nothing conciliates affection, like virtue. Every day we present the best quotes! CY - London UK. friends sharers and partners in it with ourselves. who are always bringing up their services are a nuisance. before his eyes. ON FRIENDSHIP AT THE REQUEST OF ATTICUS, CICERO WILL “WRITE SOMETHING ON FRIENDSHIP” THE augur Quintus Mucius Scaevola4 used to recount a number of stories about his father-in-law Gaius Laelius, accurately remembered and charmingly told; and whenever he talked about him always gave him the title of "the wise"5 without any hesitation. Clodius, Cicero's most troublesome enemy. prose style, was born at Arpinum, Jan. 3, 106 B.C. To recur to the illustration of the horse which I have just now used: Every Scaevola. coloured and artificial from what is sincere and genuine. they took pains in procuring the former, they were utterly careless in selecting friends, The older the sweeter, as in wines Other History Sourcebooks: African | East Asian | Global | Indian | Islamic | Jewish |  Lesbian and Gay | Science | Women's, Full Texts People change. 25 Fannius and Scaevola ask Laelius to continue by speaking more personally A public assembly, though Friendship, in which, unless you both From the fresco by Professor C. $28.00 • £19.95 • €25.00 ISBN 9780674991705. his enemy? could tell exactly how many goats or sheep he had, but not how many friends; and while family, Scaevola, Gaius Blossius of Cumae, took a different course. For as to material advantages, it often happens that those are obtained even by On Friendship. 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